Initial Considerations
Family law situations are all
different. Some are long term and
plainly evident breakdowns that both parties inevitably know need to end. Some are sudden and shocking, such as the
disclosure of an affair, or one party announcing their departure out of the
blue. While it is difficult (and unwise)
to suggest a set strategy for all divorce cases, here are some basic
considerations to consider upon the demise of your marriage.
1. Is a ‘Knee-jerk’
reaction necessary?
In the case of the slowly
deteriorating marriage, often the parties have plenty of time to discuss and
plan an amicable, mature and hopefully cost efficient split. Unfortunately this is seldom the case. Many parties involved in bad relationships
resort to threats and uneducated statements out of fear or attempts to
intimidate each other. At some point and
time these ‘adults’ are going to have to realize that a divorce fight is
extremely tough on the psyche and even tougher on the wallet. Even more so where children are involved.
Again, mature separation and settlement is the easiest and cheapest method to
end a relationship. If this is not
possible, or you are unsure, I would recommend you consult 3 family law lawyers
(on a free consultation basis!) as to where you stand.
In any situation where your assets
(bank accounts, loans, investments, credit cards, line of credit), personal
safety, or home living arrangements are in jeopardy, one should always retain a
lawyer as soon as possible to take steps to protect your situation.
2. What Will
Happen?
There are basically 3 scenarios that can play
out in resolving a family law situation.
You have the following options:
1.
Do nothing – usually not a good
option and resolves nothing
2.
Negotiate a settlement of the issues –
this requires 2 mature adults, willing to cooperate and negotiate. Having 1 willing adult doesn’t work. Options to negotiate include:
a. Parties
negotiate themselves
b. Use
of lawyers to negotiate a resolution
c. Use
of professionals such as mediators to negotiate a resolution
d. Use
of court appointed “counselors” to negotiate a resolution
3.
If #2 isn’t an option, you are only left with
the Court Process to resolve your issues – this can get expensive and is
very stressful
3. What are Common
Issues I Need to Resolve
Again, while every situation is
different, common issues are:
1. Children
2. Support
3. Residency
4. Division of Assets
5. Apportionment of Debts
4. What is the
Easiest & Cheapest Way to Resolve Everything?
Depending on your particular situation,
separation agreements can be drawn up to resolve all issues arising from your
relationship breakdown. It is highly
recommended (but not necessary) they be signed by lawyers so you have
“independent legal advice” on your settlement.
There are many online resources as to what matters should be in a
separation agreement and parties can prepare them on their own. However nothing will replace the experience
of a trained family law lawyer as to what is best for your particular
situation. If you wish to save time and
money with your family law lawyer, find out what issues need to be resolved
first, and discuss them with your partner prior to visiting the lawyer, so you
have an idea what result you would like to see happen.
5. Decree for
Divorce
Once your issues are resolved through a
separation agreement, the only matter left to resolve is if you are going to
get a formal divorce from your spouse.
You do not need to get a divorce.
You can stay married to that person the rest of your life, but it only
takes one party to request the actual divorce decree and they will be granted
it whether you disapprove or not. Most divorces (if there are no other issues
such as kids or assets to deal with) can be done by way of ‘Desk Divorce’ which
does not require a lawyer and is done by the completion and filing of paperwork
at your local court registry. You will
need an original of your marriage certificate (provincial license) which can be
obtained from the Department of Vital Statistics in BC. For more details of law visit: Shawn Dickson Swail
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